https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=BZ1FuhNO6C8&feature=youtu.be Watch this video made available by Where You Live Matters, a senior resource created by  American Seniors Housing Association. The professional opinion of researcher Dr.Karl Pillemer, Professor of Gerontology in Medicine at Weill Cornell Medical College is enlightening.

Therapeutic gardening, also known as horticulture therapy, is an activity that is spreading like a weed among seniors – with good reason.  Feeling the warmth of the sun on our skin is always something Michiganders look forward to each Spring. When a cool breeze makes itself known it too is welcomed. And we all know that taking time to pause and smell the flowers has so much more benefit than the mere beauty to our optical and olfactory senses. Our own Michigan State University was the first to offer a degree in horticulture therapy starting back in the 1950’s while the first connection that digging in the soil had a curative effect was realized in 1768 by Benjamin Rush.  250 years and many research programs later, it is known that gardening can positively impact the mind and body holistically and provide seniors with natural pain and stress relief, as well as the bonus opportunity of social engagement. Green thumb or not, therapeutic gardening can provide seniors with a wide array of health benefits, and with the right adaptations, anyone can reap the benefits. According to Denise Zebley, Proprietor at Cambrian Assisted Living & Memory Care, a senior living community in South Lyon, MI, the natural aging process makes seniors more prone to various health issues. So it is wonderful to know that taking time to cultivate and nurture plants, indoors or out, can yield reductions in depression and anxiety symptoms, general stress, changes in mood, as well as positively increasing quality of life, sense of community, physical activity levels, and cognitive function. “For those living with dementia, therapeutic gardening can provide an outlet to get rid of stress and agitation while simultaneously giving a sense of responsibility and purpose,” says Denise. “Our use of horticulture therapy has allowed our residents to blossom, often turning gloomy moods into smiles showing the sense of satisfaction.”

Benefits of Therapeutic Gardening

Sue Sunderland, Executive Director at The Bridges at Warwick in Jamison, PA shares her research into this subject, as well as suggestions on how make adaptations to allow seniors to experience success with their efforts: In an article about therapeutic gardening from Better Homes & Gardens Magazine (BHG), it is stated that throughout history, gardens “have been viewed as places of wonder, capable of restoring health and peace to those who entered.” Now, research and studies are backing up this widely-held belief.

Gardening can benefit seniors in the following ways:

• • Lifelong learning. For those who do not know how to garden, learning can become extremely beneficial.  Not only do seniors gain a new skill and potential hobby, but they expand their knowledge of nature and learn how to nurture different types of plants.  In the BHG article, it states that gardening might also have the ability to delay the onset of Alzheimer’s disease.  This is because learning a new skill can activate new connections in the brain and provide a mental workout.
• • Accomplishment and self-worth.  Gardening and being in control of the environment they are creating can help them feel as though they have some control over their lives, even when they feel like they do not have control over everything else.  Therapeutic gardening also helps seniors feel like they have a purpose and they gain a sense of accomplishment when they can watch something they tended to grow.
  • Exercise.  While we know gardening lowers stress levels, it can also make us happier.  When seniors garden, they get exercise, which increases the levels of serotonin and dopamine which can make seniors happier, according to the Psychology Today article.  The exercise that seniors get from working so vigorously to cultivate a garden can help to keep them healthier, allow them to sleep better and keep them physically and mentally fit.
  • Stress relief and relaxation.  According to an article from Psychology Today, gardening is rhythmic in nature which allows seniors to relax and let things go.  The article states that the anxious thoughts we have often have the tendency to ebb and flow with the movements of gardening and allows cortisol (stress) levels to decrease, which can help us clear our minds and settle our nerves.

“While all of these benefits greatly impact seniors’ health, they also benefit from increased levels of socializing,” says Sue. “As many people enjoy nature and seeing or smelling flowers, they are more prone to stop to talk to someone that is gardening – if only just to comment on how beautiful their flowers are or how nicely their fruits or vegetables are coming up. This can add to a seniors’ boost in self-esteem and potentially help them to make new friends and connect with other people.”

How To Make Therapeutic Gardening Easier for Seniors

If you or a loved one are interested in taking up therapeutic gardening, there are a few ways to make it safer and easier. Consider the following tips on how to make gardening easier for seniors: • Get the right tools. When planting flowers, fruits or vegetables that need to be in a container, opt for plastic instead of glass or ceramic so that they do not break. Ensure that your loved one has gloves and other materials needed in order to tend to the plants. If your loved one has Alzheimer’s or another form of dementia, make sure they do not have sharp garden tools, as they could accidentally hurt themselves. • Adapt the height to make it easier. Since some seniors may have trouble kneeling or bending over in order to tend to the garden, consider raising it to meet their needs. Raised-bed gardens can allow seniors to work at a level they are comfortable with. Some raised-bed gardens can also provide built-in seating where seniors can relax, rest and meet with others. They can also allow them to work and tend while sitting down. If your loved one prefers to kneel and get their hands dirty, kneeler stools can help. • Ensure plants are not toxic. If your loved one has a form of dementia such as Alzheimer’s, they may try to eat the plants, especially if there are herbs mixed into the garden with fruits and vegetables. In order to keep your loved one safe, try to not plant toxic forms of plants. • If you would like to take advantage of the benefits of therapeutic gardening, but do not have outdoor space, try joining a gardening club or get involved in a community garden. The benefits that seniors could reap from this form of therapy are well worth cultivating.

Activity. Friendship. Support. Convenience. Value.

You’ll find all the above at Cambrian Senior Living located in the heart of Lyon Township in South Lyon, Michigan, where every day seniors are the center of everything we do. Our philosophy of “Pursuing Excellence & Providing Joy” means that our residents enjoy a sense of purpose and contentment along with fun, personalized care and a focus on total well-being.  It is our goal to provide just the right amount of assistance to help our residents remain independent, while offering robust life-enriching programs such as gardening, along with a broad spectrum of care, hospitality services and amenities. Our dedication to total wellness – for mind, body and soul – is woven into our culture every day. or call 248-344-0001 for more information or to arrange a personal tour.  

A common emotion expressed by families over and over again is guilt for no longer feeling able to manage mom or dad's needs on their own, while simultaneously maintaining the pressures of their own lives.  The term 'sandwich generation' describes the demographic living with the challenges of having responsibilities for aging parents while simultaneously raising children and/or grandchildren of their own. The reality is that once a caregiver moves forward with the decision to move their loved one into a senior living community that can meet their needs, their relationship with the individual often improves greatly.  The major stresses that the caregiver often bears tends to overshadow the ability to maintain a positive and meaningful relationship.   Quality visits can replace the quantity of time you formerly spent managing the endless activities of daily living (bathing, toileting, dressing, organizing/tracking medication regimens, shopping, cooking, cleaning, laundering, etc.).    It is also important to note that loneliness, and even depression, often diminishes when living in a community setting as the social interactions that occur through the life enrichment offerings and mealtimes are very valuable to emotional wellness. Cambrian Senior Living located in Southeastern Michigan offers assisted living and memory care services in both the Tecumseh (Lenawee County) and South Lyon (Oakland County) areas.  For more information on Cambrian Senior Living, visit CambrianSeniorLiving.com.  

3 Reasons to Stop Feeling Guilty About Putting Mom In Assisted Living

By DailyCaring.com (Voted 2018's Best Caregiving Website)

It’s one of the hardest decisions of your life

Moving your older adult into assisted living or a skilled nursing facility (aka nursing home) might be one of the hardest decisions in your life. When caring for them at home becomes dangerous or nearly impossible, it’s absolutely necessary to move them to a place where they can get the care they need. Even if this is the best decision for their health and for yours, the guilt and sadness can still be overwhelming. It takes time, but there are ways you can help yourself accept the decision.

3 reasons for guilt and the reality behind them

Here are three common reasons and some example scenarios why caregivers feel guilty about moving their senior to assisted living. We explain why those reasons aren’t true and why your decision was unavoidable. 1. You’ve failed in your duty to care for them

• I promised Mom I’d always take care of her.
• Dad asked me to never abandon him.
• When we got married, we promised that we’d always be there for each other – in sickness and in health.

You haven’t failed. Moving someone to assisted living doesn’t mean that you’ve failed to take care of them. It means you’re making a smart decision to get them the level of care they need. You still spend as much time with them as you can, talk frequently with the staff, and manage their overall care. You are taking good care of your older adult and you certainly haven’t abandoned them. 2. You’re not as good a caregiver as you should be

• My friend Sarah takes care of her Mom at home. I should have been able to keep doing it too.
• My brother thinks I’m being lazy and just don’t want to take care of Dad at home anymore.
• My husband’s daughter (from a previous marriage) told me that she’s angry that I’m dumping her dad in a home.

You are a great caregiver. Everyone’s situation is different, so it’s not fair to compare yourself to others. It’s also important not to pay too much attention to people who don’t help and don’t understand the real situation. Your senior may have more serious health conditions or need a much higher level of care than is possible for you to provide. If your health is suffering or if someone could get injured, it’s time to make a change. Moving your older adult protects both of your health and safety and allows them to get the care they need. Besides, if you don’t protect your own health, you surely won’t be able to keep caring for them. 3. You feel their health wouldn’t have gotten worse or would have improved if you hadn’t make the move

• Mom wouldn’t have gotten the flu if she was still home with me.
• Dad would be eating better and not losing weight if I was still taking care of him.
• My wife would still recognize me if she had stayed at home with me instead of moving here.

That’s not true. It may be true that things would be different if you’d kept them at home. But that doesn’t mean things would be better than they are now. It could actually be much worse. Remember, you made this decision because their health and safety was in danger. Making a change is what had to be done to prevent something terrible from happening.

Bottom line

It hurts when you have negative thoughts and feelings about a decision you were forced to make. Your heart will need some time to catch up with what you know in your head. Understanding where the guilt is coming from gives you the chance to remind yourself about the reality of the situation. Over time, you’ll be able to fully accept the decision. That goes a long way to easing guilt and reducing stress.